Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

3 Tips on How To Be The COOL Girl Men Want

Have you ever been talking to a guy who is talking about a girl he knows or is attracted to – and he tells you she is a “cool girl” – or some other term that basically means the same thing? You might not have really picked up on it, or thought anything about it. According to Christian Carter in his Catch Him and Keep Him eBook, though, calling a girl cool is really great compliment from a guy.

A “cool” woman, to a man, is a woman that really resonates with him – a woman who really understands social and emotional circumstances and dynamics as they relate to MEN. These women are incredibly attractive to men, because being around a woman like this is FIN for a man – it’s a good experience. “Cool” girls exude positive energy but more importantly, do not project the negative emotions that many women can project.

One of the problems with men is that often times, they really take any kind of woman that they do not like and put them all in one big mental pile. So, if he had a bad experience with Jane, and then Jill does something that reminds him of Jane, Jill is guilty by association. This is one of the reasons that some men have such a difficult time finding a woman they really like and can relate to.

Ok – so what are some dating tips that will help YOU be the COOL girl? Here are some of the things you can do (you can find more in Christian Carter’s eBook Catch Him and Keep Him around page 138 and 139).

First – the cool girls do not always have to be in control of the situation. These women can go with the flow and allow the men to direct the situation (which is a salve to their alpha-male souls). Seriously – men dig this because they WANT to be in charge – and they feel much more attracted to a woman when she lets him be who HE WANTS to be. That is huge for a man.

Second -these women do not makes scenes, talk about things that are negative or complain. Whatever happens, these women can roll with the punches and slough it off. These women do not make a scene getting pissy when they are mad about something, being catty and trying to start fights or whatever. Some of you might even be offended by that statement, but as a woman, I have seen it and I am SURE you have too. Don’t do things like that – men hate it, and so do mature adults.

Third – the COOL girl, according to Christian Carter, will be COMPLETE WITH HERSELF. She will have other things to do and does not feel insecure if she does not have a date or even a friend to hang out with on a Friday night. She has her own interests. Even when she HAS a boyfriend or a date – she is perfectly happy to do her own thing and let her boyfriend or date do his as well. That’s not to say that she won’t go to a Steelers game because he wants to. But that does mean that if you are both sitting at home and he is watching the Steelers game and you are bored to tears – a cool girl will say to herself, “Hey – I don’t care about football – let’s go do something fun for me while HE has his own fun watching the game!” Then go read a book, finish a project, call a friend, whatever it is that makes YOU happy.

So – these are three of the tips that Christian Carter recommends in his Catch Him and Keep Him eBook. There are quite a few more in there, and I encourage you to read it if you have not. It is the best tool I have found to offer me an advantage in the dating world and really turn my OWN love-life around. Remember – study the COOL GIRL – once you get it – YOU will BE the cool girl!

Natural And LASTING Attraction – Hear From Christian Carter What It Is And How To Get It!

For many girls, keeping a relationship going can be more difficult than finding one to begin with. Relationships are easy to take to flame once they begin – simply because new love is so exciting your feelings of urgency to be with your new partner? You know what I mean, that incessant desire to see each other, the blazing attraction and sexual urgency and delving deep into each other’s personas with all-night talks, etc.

But what happens to your partnership when these signal fires fade? Does you (or he) start to lose appeal ? Do you begin feeling that connection fade away?

You could even be fighting more, bored or feeling unappreciated. Most people think that there is no way around this – it is just something that “happens” in every partnership, and you just have to deal with it. The fact of the matter is this is by no means the way your partnership has to go and/or remain. Christian Carter of Catch Him and Keep Him has some INCREDIBLE tips on what to do to keep your natural and lasting attraction ALIVE between you and your mate.

According to Christian Carter, to keep your partnership really fresh is to keep it fun, unpredictable and of course interesting. You can do this easily – by behaving in ways that exemplify these needs. The biggest mistake that most girls make is becoming lazy, settled or even taking for granted their partnership. That’s the kiss of death, my friend.

You can also need to understand that YOUR source of fulfillment cannot come from this partnership alone. You have to define yourself as an individual in order to become a strong and stable pillar within your partnership. If you cannot maintain your own interests and likes and dislikes – your partnership is quickly going to lose its flavor to him. After all, you would not want to date….yourself, right? Be your own person, and if that means taking time away from him to pursue your own hobbies , so be it! Take a night a week to go do YOUR thing, and I bet your partnership will be stronger for it.

Another tip is to become curious about each other again! You may have been together now for a couple months or a couple years – whatever – there are things you still do not know about him. Begin reflecting on your childhood and try to bring him in to a conversation about his own. Ask him to get involved in a project with you, like a book review, a movie review or a restaurant review.

What were some fun things that you two used to do before things started getting boring? What attracted him to you in the first place? Was it your spontaneity, your sense of humor, the way you tackled the school mascot and made him run for his life? Revisit those things, bring them back into your partnership.

Remember, in order to Catch Him and Keep Him – for good – you need to give it your all. Keep things fresh and alive – make your partner’s love for you the envy of other women! Most of all – keep learning. Keep learning every day about relationships, attraction and what makes men tick so YOU can be the best that you can be in this relationship. To learn more about Natural and Lasting Attraction, click here.