Posts Tagged ‘Natural and Lasting Attraction’

Flirting Tips for Women

Flirting sometimes gets a bad rap – like “being a flirt” is a bad thing, or knowing how to use body language to engage a man’s interest is not proper.  The truth is – that is a line of crap!  Flirting is not about getting a man to like you using some sexual technique, it’s about getting him to understand that you’re interested. There is nothing wrong with that.

As females, we are naturally attractive to the opposite sex, even when we’re shopping in our sweatpants at the grocery store.  Most men’s dating radars are set to off by default for fear of rejection, so they usually assume that we’re either married, interested in WOMEN, or not interested THEM. By flirting with a man, you are simply sending him the signal that it is okay for him to pursue you.  Many men actually need this signal to proceed.

So there are two ways to flirt.  One is using body language, which is VERY effective and probably what most people think of when they are talking about flirting. Here are several things you can do to use body language to flirt.

1 – Leaning toward him will indicate open and honest interest as well. If you do it right, it will also emphasize your breasts and your sexuality if you want to go that way.

2 – Use eye contact.  Make eye contact with the man you are interested in and hold it, smiling demurely or cocking your head to the side to indicate interest.

3 – Licking your lips (or him licking his!) is a sign of attraction as well.  Your mouth tends to dry out when you get aroused, and this is an external indicator.

4 – Do not cross your arms – this indicates that you are not interested, and while many men do not think they know the first thing about body language, to many it is innate, and they will interpret this gesture as a negative action.

Conversation is another very effective way to flirt with a man.  (You can actually use these flirting tips at any stage of a relationship, as well.  Christian Cater has actually made a program called Natural and Lasting Attraction that is exclusively about firing up and maintaining attraction, check it out HERE if you want to become an expert on flirting and maintaining attraction throughout your relationship).  

During conversation, you need to show the man that you are spontaneous, independent and unpredictable.  These are KEY to attraction and these are really hot buttons for most men.  Another key to successful flirting is confidence. If your object of interest seems quiet, he may just be surprised and nervous that a woman is actually talking to him. If you’ve tried initiating conversation and it seems to be failing, keep yourself available to him by standing by him for a few minutes. If he’s interested, he’ll eventually start a conversation topic to prevent you from leaving. At that point, you can suggest some type of activity to do together, like playing a game of pool, or looking at something on the other side of the room.

Keep your conversations upbeat and fun – don’t bash an ex, talk about your broken heart or what a jerk your friend is being.  Negativity has no place in flirtation.  Remember to stay confident, keep eye contact and use your body language to bolster your conversation as well.  Flirtation is a natural part of the human interaction and can keep your relationship fresh and young even after many years.  For more flirting tips from dating experts like Christian Carter, click on the link and start learning!

The Three C’s of Attraction – Learn Them Now!

Whether you are a single woman looking to snag a guy, or you are a woman in a relationship trying to keep him on the hook – the art of attraction is going to be a big part of your arsenal of female wiles.  Attraction, in the dating and mating world, is so much more than a good lipstick and a killer pair of shoes.  It is the ART of learning to attract a man and – to a man, attraction consists of three basic elements of the female personality.

Now don’t get me wrong – men ARE visual creatures and I know this.  So looking your best will certainly get you in the door.  But what attracts a man AFTER that initial contact?  Or – better yet – what can attract a man IN SPITE of the initial contact?

Three things, ladies.  Confidence, command and completion – the three C’s of attraction.  The best thing about these three attributes is that you DON’T have to look like Barbie to have them – and use them.

Ok, let’s get right to it.  Confidence – why would a man want confidence?  Doesn’t that make you more…well…manly?  Nope.  A man will be attracted to a confident woman because that confidence tells him that you are valuable (alpha female), intelligent and STRONG.  This, ladies, is evolution.  The survival of the fittest.  Men want a woman (and not be suggesting you sleep with every man you date, by far, but each encounter has the POTENTIAL of becoming a life-mate) who has the potential to carry on his genes and produce strong, viable offspring.  This is called being the Alpha Female, and she is at the top of the stack.  All the males want her.

Next – she commands respect.  To many women, this sounds a LOT like confidence.  It is – with one exception.  Your confidence it completely an inner game thing, which shows on the outside.  Commanding respect, however, means that you teach others how to treat you – what you will and will not accept.  I’m not saying go around giving orders to people – but if you are in a situation that may compromise your integrity – say so, be bold.

The third thing is completion.  Christian Carter really emphasizes this in his eBook and his Natural and Lasting Attraction program, and I think this may be one of the most important elements of attraction.  You need to be able to be complete without a man. You need to have your own interests, you r own likes and dislikes, and your own schedule.  I see SO many women just …morph….into their partner.  They learn to like what he likes, they do everything that he does, etc.  Now, stretching your tastes to learn to encompass his own is FINE.  But – one of the most important pieces of dating advice for women - is to RETAIN your own INDIVIDUALITY. 

And you know what – if he is watching football and you are so bored you are thinking of waxing your underarms – go find something else to do!  Don’t do it in a huffy way or anything, just go grab a book, finish a project or take a nap.  It’s not insulting to him; it is showing him that you are your own person.

So remember the three C’s – confidence, commanding and completion. Master these – and you will find your relationships running much smoother, in every way.  For more dating tips - check out Christian’s eBook – Catch Him and Keep Him, it is FULL of fantastic advice on getting a man and keeping him.

Natural And LASTING Attraction – Hear From Christian Carter What It Is And How To Get It!

For many girls, keeping a relationship going can be more difficult than finding one to begin with. Relationships are easy to take to flame once they begin – simply because new love is so exciting your feelings of urgency to be with your new partner? You know what I mean, that incessant desire to see each other, the blazing attraction and sexual urgency and delving deep into each other’s personas with all-night talks, etc.

But what happens to your partnership when these signal fires fade? Does you (or he) start to lose appeal ? Do you begin feeling that connection fade away?

You could even be fighting more, bored or feeling unappreciated. Most people think that there is no way around this – it is just something that “happens” in every partnership, and you just have to deal with it. The fact of the matter is this is by no means the way your partnership has to go and/or remain. Christian Carter of Catch Him and Keep Him has some INCREDIBLE tips on what to do to keep your natural and lasting attraction ALIVE between you and your mate.

According to Christian Carter, to keep your partnership really fresh is to keep it fun, unpredictable and of course interesting. You can do this easily – by behaving in ways that exemplify these needs. The biggest mistake that most girls make is becoming lazy, settled or even taking for granted their partnership. That’s the kiss of death, my friend.

You can also need to understand that YOUR source of fulfillment cannot come from this partnership alone. You have to define yourself as an individual in order to become a strong and stable pillar within your partnership. If you cannot maintain your own interests and likes and dislikes – your partnership is quickly going to lose its flavor to him. After all, you would not want to date….yourself, right? Be your own person, and if that means taking time away from him to pursue your own hobbies , so be it! Take a night a week to go do YOUR thing, and I bet your partnership will be stronger for it.

Another tip is to become curious about each other again! You may have been together now for a couple months or a couple years – whatever – there are things you still do not know about him. Begin reflecting on your childhood and try to bring him in to a conversation about his own. Ask him to get involved in a project with you, like a book review, a movie review or a restaurant review.

What were some fun things that you two used to do before things started getting boring? What attracted him to you in the first place? Was it your spontaneity, your sense of humor, the way you tackled the school mascot and made him run for his life? Revisit those things, bring them back into your partnership.

Remember, in order to Catch Him and Keep Him – for good – you need to give it your all. Keep things fresh and alive – make your partner’s love for you the envy of other women! Most of all – keep learning. Keep learning every day about relationships, attraction and what makes men tick so YOU can be the best that you can be in this relationship. To learn more about Natural and Lasting Attraction, click here.