Flirting Tips for Women

Sunday, September 7th, 2008 | Natural and Lasting Attraction

Flirting sometimes gets a bad rap – like “being a flirt” is a bad thing, or knowing how to use body language to engage a man’s interest is not proper. The truth is – that is a line of crap! Flirting is not about getting a man to like you using some sexual technique, it’s about getting him to understand that you’re interested. There is nothing wrong with that.

As females, we are naturally attractive to the opposite sex, even when we’re shopping in our sweatpants at the grocery store. Most men’s dating radars are set to off by default for fear of rejection, so they usually assume that we’re either married, interested in WOMEN, or not interested THEM. By flirting with a man, you are simply sending him the signal that it is okay for him to pursue you. Many men actually need this signal to proceed.

So there are two ways to flirt. One is using body language, which is VERY effective and probably what most people think of when they are talking about flirting. Here are several things you can do to use body language to flirt.

1 – Leaning toward him will indicate open and honest interest as well. If you do it right, it will also emphasize your breasts and your sexuality if you want to go that way.

2 – Use eye contact. Make eye contact with the man you are interested in and hold it, smiling demurely or cocking your head to the side to indicate interest.

3 - Licking your lips (or him licking his!) is a sign of attraction as well. Your mouth tends to dry out when you get aroused, and this is an external indicator.

4 – Do not cross your arms – this indicates that you are not interested, and while many men do not think they know the first thing about body language, to many it is innate, and they will interpret this gesture as a negative action.

Conversation is another very effective way to flirt with a man. (You can actually use these flirting tips at any stage of a relationship, as well. Christian Cater has actually made a program called Natural and Lasting Attraction that is exclusively about firing up and maintaining attraction, check it out HERE if you want to become an expert on flirting and maintaining attraction throughout your relationship).

During conversation, you need to show the man that you are spontaneous, independent and unpredictable. These are KEY to attraction and these are really hot buttons for most men. Another key to successful flirting is confidence. If your object of interest seems quiet, he may just be surprised and nervous that a woman is actually talking to him. If you’ve tried initiating conversation and it seems to be failing, keep yourself available to him by standing by him for a few minutes. If he’s interested, he’ll eventually start a conversation topic to prevent you from leaving. At that point, you can suggest some type of activity to do together, like playing a game of pool, or looking at something on the other side of the room.

Keep your conversations upbeat and fun – don’t bash an ex, talk about your broken heart or what a jerk your friend is being. Negativity has no place in flirtation. Remember to stay confident, keep eye contact and use your body language to bolster your conversation as well. Flirtation is a natural part of the human interaction and can keep your relationship fresh and young even after many years. For more flirting tips from dating experts like Christian Carter, click on the link and start learning!

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