Calling ALL Women! Don’t Call Him First!
The perfect evening out with the girls ends in meeting a great guy and actually getting his phone number, and giving him yours, right? Well of course! You then do your secret little victory dance while he is not looking, and pride yourself on being strong and walking away with only a kiss and a smile. But then – the sinking feeling begins as the wait prolongs. Should YOU call him? How long do you wait? What if he never calls?
As a woman you are entitled to certain things. One is the right to change your mind at any given moment. The other is the right to RECEIVE the first call. So let me make that clear. You do NOT make the first call. Men chase – not women.
Take a look around you, at nature. Its always the male who does the work to attract the female. They have the colorful plumage or the trilling call – all to attract the female. Men make the call. In other words, reason number one why you do not make the first call is that you certainly do not want to be seen as aggressive or impatient before a relationship has even begun.
Reason number two – we want to see a little effort here ladies, don’t we? If he has to do nothing, you are going to begin a pattern of chasing HIM – being the pursuer. You don’t want that and frankly, neither does he. You will give him the advantage in the relationship if he knows that you are chasing him and he has to do none of the work.
But there also another side effect to becoming the pursuer. It will completely KILL the chances of attraction growing, for you AND him. Like it or not, dating is a game at first. It’s a fun game of chase, cowboys and Indians, cat and mouse, whatever you want to call it. But if you lay down and surrender before the game has even begun, do you think he is going to want to play? No.
Thirdly – you are in demand, baby! You need to show him, or let him believe that you are in demand, you are a sought after item and you are not going to be on the shelf for long! Do not, under any circumstance, let him think that you are sitting by the phone eagerly awaiting his call.
And when he DOES finally call? DO NOT ANSWER THE PHONE. Remember – you are in demand! You are out having fun! Where? He doesn’t know. Maybe with another guy. Maybe not. But let his imagination prick his toes for a bit and he will want you more and more. If you can stand it, wait until the next day to call him. If not, at least give it a couple hours.
The fourth and final reason you should let the man do the calling, at least in the beginning of the relationship, is simply for your own peace of mind. As a woman, I KNOW how you will sit there and wonder if he is really into you or just being nice. Well, if he is calling YOU for dates, that takes the wonder out of it.
So be the woman, and let him be the man. Let him call you. And if he doesn’t call? His loss, honey. He was not showing you his true face then anyway, and you don’t want that. So go and let him get you girl!
